Top tips for creating a wedding ceremony
Updated: Aug 23
So you want a beautiful personal wedding ceremony like the ones you see in the bridal magazines, but you’re not sure where to start. One award winning destination wedding celebrant answers the most popular questions and shares her top tips for creating a perfect ceremony.
How do you create a wedding ceremony?
The key to creating a wedding ceremony is understanding that a marriage and a wedding are two different things. The ceremonial celebration can include whatever wording, vows, readings and rituals you want, to totally personalise your special day.
What’s the difference between a marriage and a wedding?
Depending on where you are in the world, a marriage is a legal contract between two people comprising about 40 obligatory words plus your names and a witnessed signature.
A wedding is the ceremonial celebration of the marriage. Sometimes this is a religious ceremony held at the same time as the marriage – but more and more, the wedding ceremony is held separately to the marriage and that is where the fun starts!
Is it my real wedding day?
Whether you have your marriage and wedding at the same time or on different days and in totally different countries – your wedding day is your wedding day, end of story!
An independent celebrant can write a script for you that includes wording similar to that of the marriage, with the kinds of phrases your guests are expecting to hear, but with a modern twist.
What elements can I include in my wedding ceremony?
There are some fab bridal sites with ideas for different types of readings. Hitched has a great selection of alternative poems, lyrics and quotes, from the romantic to the downright hilarious.
For ideas on choosing some modern wedding vows, trust the Ozzies to come up with some suggestions at I Do.com but if you want to write your own then that is totally cool too.
What are wedding rituals?
Having an independent celebrant to officiate your wedding means that they can blend rituals into your ceremony from different religions or belief systems such as a Sri Lankan oil pouring ceremony, the Jewish Ashkenazi tradition or the Spanish arras coin ritual.
Or perhaps you would simply like some symbolism in your ceremony like a sand ceremony to unify two families, or a handfasting as a visual representation of your “tying the knot”.
Remember that a ring exchange is a traditional wedding ritual too and is not actually part of the legal marriage, so you can save this special element for your wedding day.
Is it easy to have a destination wedding?
By contracting your legal marriage in your own country, that then frees you up to celebrate your wedding day whenever and where ever you want – including overseas!
Your lovely wedding planner will be able to introduce you to all the beautiful venues and the local suppliers in your chosen destination wedding location. They can even introduce you to an English speaking celebrant who will get to know the two of you, to craft a ceremony that will reflect your personalities and who will officiate the heart of your special day – your real wedding ceremony.
Debbie Skyrme is “Celebrant Spain”, a bilingual, independent celebrant officiating weddings, elopements and vow renewals in the Spanish sunshine.
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